“The words you speak become the house you live in”…or in this case, the words he spoke became the house she was trapped in.
Day in and day out. Year after year. Her mind was filled with the words he spoke, the words he yelled. The words that he was speaking into her life, the ones that caused fear in her every time the phone rang or the door opened. The lies and the chaos had started to impact more than just her mind, it had damaged her heart, and eventually, it had damaged her entire being.
You are constantly being destroyed but yet you find yourself constantly apologizing. Every. Single. Time.
But, you’re in love? Yes? How many scars did you justify because you loved the man or woman who was hurting you? How many times did you dismiss a situation because it “won’t happen again”? How many times did you say that you’ll be alright? That things would get better? Ask yourself, how many times? More than once? That is enough.
You are worth MORE than you have been told. YOU are valuable. You are beautiful. You are a good person. You have a big heart. You are loved…sadly, you are not loved by this person, BUT you are loved by many others. You are cherished…sadly, you are not cherished by this person, BUT you are cherished by many others.
Be honest with yourself, brutally and completely honest. What do YOU want? Do you want to live the rest of your life this way, or not? Only you can change your situation. What you allow…is what will continue. (We’ve all heard this a thousand times, but it is SO true and sometimes we just need a little reminder!)
Ladies and gentlemen…you deserve nothing less than what God has for you. Honestly, do you think God would want you to be with someone like this? Definitely not. He loves you. Please believe that He has more for you. The very best for you.
Do your heart a favor, turn around & leave. Your heart is too big to be treated small.
To the person reading this:::If you have ever been in a situation where you were the victim of verbal abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, or physical abuse…please reach out and get help. Tell someone.
To the person reading this:::If you’re wondering how life can get better after this, or how hope can flow through your veins after someone has drained you of everything…I have one answer for you. Jesus.
To the person reading this:::I am sorry. I am so sorry. Please KNOW this is NOT your fault. None of it is. DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF. (Normal people do not go around destroying others or hurting others). I understand what it is like. I have been in your shoes. (Unfortunately, in all 4 cases.) I know you’re hurting & I know that these situations are extremely difficult. You should have never been treated this way. If you were meant to be controlled by others you would have surely come into this world with a remote. You are not a punching bag nor a soccer ball. You are not something or someone to be taken advantage of. You should not have had to go through this. You should not be going through this. You should never feel that you are undesirable and useless. You are not a disappointment. I love you and I am here for you. ALWAYS.
I am so thankful that I got out of those situations and found a wonderful man who loves me and treats me how a man should. I wish this for you as well.
Friend, I hope you find yourself again. Your laugh. Your smile. Your passions and dreams. I hope that they shine through you more than ever. You deserve to be fully loved. Every single piece of you, because you are worth it.
Please remember that being hurt does NOT make you any less beautiful.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
*I can also recommend a great place to go for counseling/therapy. Please do not hesitate to ask.*
Please know that this post is to empower others who need to read this. I did not write this for others to “pity” me or to “feel sorry” for me, I did not go into much detail about myself because I am not making this all about me. This post is for YOU. I care about you.